It doesn't all have to be hard.

When we think of life transitions, we tend to see things as an uphill battle. Yes, we can recognize the good, but anxiety has a way of fogging up the windshield as we look out onto the road ahead.

Preconceived notions, expectations of how things will go especially when you feel like you’re in a tough stage can make anyone nervous to take a chance. Although we may want to change things up desperately, there are a million and one reasons not to make the shift. Finances, security, the unknown, the what ifs, past experiences and the list goes on. 

However, it doesn’t all have to be hard. 

What a concept! It’s so simple. Yet, it feels so foreign. 

When you are making your way through life and on the brink of change, imagine that the change could actually feel good, easy, like the right fit. 

It is imperative that we consider this an option just as much as we look at the risks. Acknowledging a positive outcome can lead us to make impactful changes in our lives that better align with our goals and our present capacity and selves. 

In therapy, we often discuss the concept of outgrowing. For example we may outgrow a coping tool that used to work for us in the past. We may also grow into a new phase in our lives where we are better suited for change. It’s incredibly subtle and hard to pinpoint sometimes. But we can feel it.

Our intuition is saying one thing and our past fears, coping mechanisms and experience may be halting us and saying to proceed with caution. 

For example, I recently moved to Connecticut. I am new and people keep asking me how my family and I decided to move here. 

Why Connecticut? What brought us here? 

Good question. It is a very hard one to answer. You’d think a move this big would have an answer with logistics and rationale tied up into it. But really, it was just intuition that led us here. 

It felt right. It aligned. It was just a move that felt good. I guess the answer is gut and intuition.

After deciding to leave NYC, there were moments of doubt, of fear. How would we adjust? We are about to uproot everything and start from scratch? Right up until the day we moved, I kept reassuring myself that we could always come back. Hesitation, risk, anxiety all passed through me.

I thought that this was going to be tough. I honestly thought it would have taken time to adjust, to feel comfortable, to be happy.

I couldn't have been more wrong. We are loving it. Loving everything including the transition itself. We have loved meeting new people, exploring new places, learning and growing through this.

I want so badly to put a sentence right here that says something to the effect of  “I acknowledge that this may not always be the case and we are bound to face our challenges”, but that is exactly what we are talking about here! 

I challenge myself right here to wonder, could it actually all be good? Could it actually be easy? Maybe things can be aligned from the start?

Challenge yourself to believe in what could actually be easier than expected. It doesn't all have to be hard.  

I am excited to announce that we are now accepting patients in Connecticut. We are optimistic that this new location aligns well with our practice and we are so excited to see where this leads us.